Where are you?
We love going there for weekend romantic getaways. In fact, our favorite Italian restaurant in the whole world is there, Franchino's.
It's the kind of restaurant where it feels like your mother is doing the cooking, only its a version of your mother that is an even better cook. (sshhhh don't tell our mothers we said that)
It's run by an Italian family. The father is the host and runs the front end of the restaurant (every day is his birthday apparently), the mother is the cook, and the son and daughter are the servers. They cook the best Italian food we've ever had and it's located in Little Italy in San Francisco.
The first time we went there, there was a long wait to get a table because the food is so mouthwatering good and the owner brought us out two glasses of red wine to drink and enjoy while we were waiting outside on the sidewalk. We were instantly smitten.
Now that's how you treat your customers (even though we're not sure it's even legal to drink wine on the sidewalk) but it made us feel special.
On one of our trips we went there and had a wonderful, amazing meal, red wine, and good conversation.
Afterwards we went for a little walk, actually a long walk. We wandered through Little Italy and into other areas of San Francisco. And we kept walking and walking.
We had a map with us because we eventually wanted to go to Ghirardelli Square and have some amazing milk chocolate dessert (this was before having gps on your phone). After walking for a while, we pulled out our map and located Ghirardelli Square. There was a slight problem though.....
As we looked at the map, Michael said okay that's where we want to go but where are we?
Although we knew what we wanted and where we wanted to go, we had no clue where the heck we were.
Now how does this relate to your love life?
Well, it does, and we're about to tell you how.
Many of our clients, when they come to see us for coaching, know what kind of relationship they want or the kind of partner they want.
And that's good, you should know that.
But often they don't have a clue where they currently are in their love life.
Do you know where you are in your love life?
If you don't know where you are now, you won't know how to get to where you want to go. It was the same problem we had in San Francisco.
So back to the story, as we looked at the map we couldn't figure out how to get to Ghirardelli Square. We kept walking and walking. It was kind of late at night so there weren't very many people outside. We eventually ran into someone and asked, "Where are we?!" Thankfully, he told us. In fact our new friend showed us where we were on the map.
It only took a few seconds to chart a course to get to Ghirardelli Square once we knew where we were...... And the same thing is true of your love life.
The secret key to transforming your love life is to know where you are now and where you want to go. You have to have both or it doesn't work.
Rooting for you,
Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn